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{September 10, 2014}   Abuse First Hand in Our Community/

I Have Seen Abuse First hand in our community Will it Ever Go Away —— I Doubt It ——- ??????

Abuse in all forms —— Before I write about my experiences I can proudly say that coming from a family of 10 children our Parents were 2 of the nicest people you would ever want to meet they adored their family and both worked incredibly hard to keep us together my mum and dad shared their lives for 42 years with each other and I will never forget those words yelled so loudly from my mother He’s gone when our dad passed away at just 77 those were piercing words for my mum to suddenly feel alone after all that time I am proud to have known them but lost a lot of my years away from the family having moved out of home at age 14 to pursue my own career ,I never ever saw my mum and dad argue and if they had their differences they were solved in the bedroom that might explain how 10 kids came about I feel gifted that both our parents did not smoke and only dabbled in an occasional social drink usually at some kind of celebration,just like me they were fun and laughed a lot. Out of the 10 siblings only 1 is a smoker and 2 brothers definitely like their alcohol too much but more importantly non of us ended up with any major illnesses and for that alone we have been gifted from a combination of good jeans. Thank’s to You Mum and Dad.Every second family these day’s fight some kind of challenge falling victim to some of the most horrific deceases many I have never heard of.

 

My first hand experience at seeing Domestic Violence came at the age of 12 when I was helping a cousin with her take-away and accommodation business after a long hard day serving people and cooking food I stayed the night into the weekend to help her out when her husband returned from somewhere he had no idea I was in another room resting when I heard him accusing my cousin of well where have you been who have you been with well we worked together all day so I knew exactly where she was he proceed to belt into her when I appeared at the door and spoke to protect her even though I was only 12 my actions stoped him from proceeding any further.

At the age of 15 and a half I moved to the big smoke Melbourne as there was very little work in the country and to survive one needed Trade certificates and lots of experience and so started my journey of my incredibly proud background of achievements of which only I knew I never used to speak of my achievements especially to boyfriends of whom I knew I would never marry and there fore no one really knew what my background was not even my own family,you have heard the old saying what happens in Vegas stay’s in Vegas except this was Melbourne.

Having no knowledge of Melbourne myself at that stage I asked an older sister to find me a flat close to transport ,and so I ended up in Station St Coburg in a house that had been divided into Community share bathroom and a number of what they called flat-et commonly known as a self contained units ,across from me was a lady called Moyra who already had 2 children and was pregnant with a third I quickly realised that again I was witnessing the cries of Domestic violence from her unit the walls were very thin in that place horrified I spoke to her on a few occasions but could only offer the advice of you need to leave him,living in this same unit was where I took up a relationship with one Michael Harper according to him it was only supposed to be a 1 night date (I Wish it had not been at all) after nearly 5 years he caused myself a fractured nose just short of age 17 and he assaulted my brother who was just 8 years old I knew it was only a matter of time before I would take a deep breath and walk away with the feeling like I had never known him ,he had more than 1 mate in his circles who were also violent towards their girl friends and there was one fellow who seemed to get girls pregnant frequently only to then arrange back-yard abortions where I believe some of those girls nearly lost their own lives.Harper kept the company of many criminals of whom I was oblivious to but realising today just how bad some of them were and although I left him 40 plus years ago he took it upon himself to once again get involved in this terrible trail of Abuse that I have delt with lasing over a term of these past 24 years ,Harpers first wife Judy left him years ago with their 2 grown daughters and they are believed to not have any contact with each other this clearly makes sense to me.

It was at this point that I hoped one day I would write a book on Stop Abuse To Women as I was constantly seeing it all around me —– When will it ever stop —– or slow down ——- probably never ????

There are many forms of Abuse / both Verbal and Physical these are just a few examples of the Trauma that women face during there life,the one main thing I learned was that don’t just have children to any bloke just because you want kids first make sure the bloke wants kids too many females never ask them they just go ahead and have them thus then finding themselves in an Abusive relationship after a few years one should be able to tell if a bloke would make a good father and more importantly can you both afford a child if these are not clear main factors then your chances of survival are very thin and the children suffer immensely —— I could write on the topic of Abuse for long term as there are so many stories to share but there are other things in life that must be well organised also like a happy household / plenty of good food on the table and being able to afford everything you chose to do —– the last story I want to share with you is that one of our oldest Hospitals in Melbourne that no longer exists in the Queen Victoria well known for delivering babies was also the highest in pregnancy terminations with a huge majority of previously married women who attended —— for those who believe in wright to life and condone pregnancy termination (I condone you for such actions you have No wright to run anyone’s life) in telling them how to run theirs there are a million and one reasons why a woman makes a choice to terminate a pregnancy some of them are lack of money to provide / the sexual experience may have been a one off where the female is unaware and has been caught up in falling pregnant not wanting the pregnancy / casual affairs have been well known to have produced unwanted pregnancies / in many cases the female has completed her family but has become pregnant once gain and the pressure can be enormous to have to be able to afford an extra mouth to feed / and Rape cases No Female should have to bare the affects of an unwanted child through forceful rape,imagine having to bare the scars of not only having been raped but to have to bring up a persons child that( 1 )you never knew and (2 )that caused you so much grief that you just want to throw up at the thought of it !

You wright to Lifers can go and bag your head in the sand as you are obviously not the sufferers and it is not your place to run somebody else’s life or make choices for them.Some good suggestions would be to spend your time providing third world countries on how not to fall pregnant and in helping them educate themselves where so many children are born only to die within months nobody can help a starving Nation full of people whilst they are still producing,and all the money in world is going No Where until that production line stops give these woman a life for heavens sake.

 

 

 



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